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Why it Can Be Tough to Have a “BFF” Relationship With a Work Colleague
Up until 6 years ago, I never understood the true meaning of “colleague.” Since I have been in my role in Children’s Services, surrounded by approximately 40 women, I have learned a lot about office and friendship dynamics.
When I first joined the team, I was an implant from a small town 5 hours north of the big city of Calgary and I was nervous, anxious and excited to be a part of a real “team” of fellow workers.
Before I started this position, I was the boss, at every job I have been employed in since I was 18. I have always been a manager, supervisor, owner, or “senior staff”. This new place on the totem pole, was new and scary for me.
I shared an office with a wonderful lady, who I grew attached to. She helped me get settled in my role, and we had many deep, private conversations, as we plowed through our caseloads and reports. She and I had a lot in common and shared many of the same views. We started in our positions, a month apart.
In the fall of our second year together, she applied for a Leadership position and got it! I was so excited for her, and proud of what she had accomplished, yet it sucked for me, as we no longer would be sharing space together. I knew it would completely change our friendship, and it did. We don’t spend any time…
