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The Two Sides of Abuse, That No One Likes to Talk About
If you have ever been the victim of abuse by another person, or persons, you know that it is like a theft of your inner being. It feels as though the abuser has found their way into your psyche and cherry picked pieces of you that were once intact. After the abuse, they are now rendered damaged or worse-they are now missing.
Abuse is an event that changes your life. Period. Multiple events of abuse in your life can cause severe damage to your body, mental health and self worth. It is unjust when you are a victim, and completely wrong on many levels, and always seems to lead to the same question: WHY?
WHY WAS I THE VICTIM?
Let’s look at the human race for a moment. We all have the gift of coming out of our mother’s womb with a clean slate. We know nothing about the world, and everything that enters into our brain and heart, are LEARNED. Our environment and the connection with our parents are our first life lesson. The sounds, smells, touches, sights, and feelings in our surroundings at birth and on through the first 100 days of life, are the foundation for our development. This is when we learn to be human beings.
If those surroundings/environments are filled with stress, poverty, conflict, pain, malnutrition or lack of love, our “humanism” becomes damaged. I…
