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Sex is Not Love/Love is Not Sex
It took me 50 years to find someone who agrees with this.
The act of engaging is sexual intercourse, fooling around, or “making out” does not necessarily mean LOVE.
Shocker, I know.
In my past relationships, sex has been a hot button topic. It has been used as a weapon, or a condition, of maintaining a healthy partnership. Until very recently, a new light has been shed for me, on what the act of sex actually means, and why couples engage in it together.
I have heard accusations like, “You must not love me, if you don’t want to have sex”, and “You rejected me. There must be someone else.”
Maybe, just maybe, I simply wasn’t in the mood for it, or, perhaps I simply didn’t feel like it was an appropriate time or place for it. In all honesty, the ability to say no when a partner comes at you full force, wanting to jump your bones, can be slightly intimidating, and even annoying, when you aren’t in the same mind frame.
