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Questions My Spouse Asks Me That Make Me Question Our Relationship
When you are involved in a long term relationship, there are a few questions that your spouse should learn to STOP asking you. I believe that in order to learn and grow with your spouse or partner, you need to build capacity with each other, and learn about the other’s emotional triggers. You must try and seek a deeper understanding of one another, in order to reach an intimate, trusting level so that you can build a future together in an open, honest manner.
Questions from my partner that make me question our relationship:
Are you still grumpy?
This question makes me crazy for a multitude of reasons. First of all, “grumpy” doesn’t encompass any emotions. Grumpy is one of the 7 Dwarfs. Grumpy, means that I am just feeling sulky or bad tempered. I AM NONE OF THESE THINGS.
Frustrated? Maybe..or how about annoyed with something you said? Or maybe, I am feeling sad about something that happened during the day that has put me in a melancholy mood and I haven’t found the words to talk to you about it. Putting ALL of my emotions under this umbrella you call “Grumpy” is telling me that I am unworthy of having other emotions.
