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Do Adults Need to Have a“Best Friend”?
Being a writer can be a lonely world.
In December I started writing a book for a client and began to write regularly on Medium. I have passed on various opportunities to spend time with my “closest friend” and in turn, she has stopped contacting me regularly. It sucks, but it was a choice I had to make for myself.
Would I consider my close friend my “best friend”? Maybe, in that we shared every little problem with each other, talked endlessly about everything, and we know pretty much every little detail about each other.
My question is, however, at what point in our lives do we no longer require having the ONE BEST FRIEND? I am still quite connected with all my high school buddies, and the 3 ladies who stood up for me when I got married. But, as of January, I know longer have that ONE friend that I run to with every laugh or tear in my life. It feels weirdly empty.
I have lived in my current city for just over 5 years, and in that time I have met so many wonderful people. My next door neighbor is like a new mother to me, my colleagues are all wonderful ladies who always have my back, and a few scattered friends around the city spend time with me over wine and the odd lunch and dinner dates. I wouldn’t say I have a TRIBE but the people I associate with are all lovely human beings. I feel blessed.
