3 Responses to Help You Win at Everything!

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  1. BE STRONG — What does STRONG look like to you? Sometimes, strong means walking away from a situation that you feel uncomfortable or hurt by. Strong can also look like the words you exchange. Perhaps the situation is a meeting where one of the board members tells you there will be wage cuts. Strong could be, you speaking up and reminding them of how hard you work for your salary and coming up with alternatives such as less overtime or less hours charged in a day. Strong could also be when your spouse comes home miserable after work and you ask them what’s wrong? They tell you about how horrible traffic was and how the boss made them upset. Your response, as a strong person could be as simple as an acknowledgement of their stress and encouraging them to help with dinner prep, to get their mind off of their day or offering them a new route to work by sharing time over a Google map. Or if your child is having a tantrum because of homework that they were given, strong could be you reminding your child that school is their job and they need to complete it. (You could also be kind and offer to help if they don’t understand something)
    Being strong has a couple of caveats, however. If you’re strong and share a strong belief or argument, typically the recourse is just that, an argument. Being strong also requires follow through. So, if you choose to stand up and be strong about an opinion of others or you offer alternatives or solutions for a problem, be prepared to always follow through. This is not always a bad thing.
    Being strong means that you see a situation that could use a new opinion or solution in order to fix it. If you see that you could solve the issue, be strong and offer to help, or be strong and listen to what others are trying to tell you without reacting immediately with an argument. Be strong and offer an alternative in a calm manner. If this is ineffective, refer to Response #3 .
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Take the situation with your child’s “special shirt”

Be kind: Try to help her find it or offer alternatives. Offer help and suggestions.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

— Viktor E. Frankl

Writer of relationships / early childhood and mental health . Poetry and fiction dabbler

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